Navigating the Inevitable changes in Life
Most of the time, we may navigate family and life transitions just fine, while at other times, certain changes can make for a bumpy ride. You may be unsure how to “get back to calm”, whether the change is perceived as positive or negative, expected or unexpected in your life or family. Having a therapist you can talk to can ease the stress you may feel at this time.
Two Types of Change:
- Horizontal stressors are changes that occur over the course of time in one’s life or family. There are both predictable and unpredictable life changes. Examples of predictable changes are adjusting to a new marriage, the birth of a child or retirement. Unpredictable changes might be an illness or divorce.
- Vertical stressors are a sort of inheritance passed down through the family line. Some examples include, beliefs and practices, family emotional patterns, poverty, politics and religion.
I support people through the challenges associated with these changes.
Individual Life Transitions
Life transitions have a way of making us ask ourselves, “Who am I, really? Where am I going? How can I heal? What really matters?”
Whether the life transition is something that you wanted - like going off to college, getting the job of your dreams, getting married, finally retiring; or something completely unexpected - a divorce, serious illness, disillusionment at midlife, or loss of a loved one; therapy can help you answer some of the life questions experiences like these create. Exploration of thoughts, feelings and sensations as well as clarifying old patterns and new challenges is an important first step. Learning to be present with patterns of self talk and behavior opens you to greater possibilities, making you better able to embrace the changes in your life.
If you have further questions about how I might be able to help you, please call for a free phone consultation (206) 650-0254.
Changes in the family may shift roles and responsibilities, requiring adaptation. Most of the time, a flexible and accommodating family system can absorb stressors. Sometimes new demands can knock us off balance and lead to symptoms of distress. Tension and conflict can become overwhelming and you may wonder what can help things get better. Family counseling offers a safe place to explore the challenges your family faces, identify solutions, and build hope as we tackle your goals together. Your family can become more resilient, strong and resourceful as a result.
If you have questions about how I might be able to help your family, please call for a free phone consultation (206) 650-0254